Friendships/Relationships:
It's
easy to say 'the right thing'
Part 1
It's easy for a man to say the right thing,
ladies
...and then there is the truth. A lot of brothers know that
a lot of you sisters don't want friendships you want serious, committed relationships
with a good brother. Hey, you're tired of being single and tired of these sorry
bitch ass brothas. Right? Well the bitch ass brothers know that too. But they
are still bitch ass brothers so what are they gonna do? It's pretty obvious.
Don't fall for any lines girls and miss out on a brother that's real. You gotta
add that 'Sense Appeal'. Ask does it make sense? Not just, does it feel good?
Be glad if you're married or in a 'serious relationship'!
But, BE GLAD
IF YOU'RE NOT! Yeah be glad you're single!
When we so desperately want something other than what we have, while not
appreciating what we do have a few things can happen.
1. We go about getting it at any cost or at least, or go about it the
wrong way
2. We settle too quickly
3. We forget there will be problems
when we find that special one, the same as before. We might find ourselves
wanting to be single again. Real quick! If were not more careful in
selecting.
I think we have to get beyond that "the grass is always greener" syndrome
in relationships! When we're not so desperate for a change is when we could
have patience and make good decisions.
Don't fall for any line:
It's easy for a man with a
little intelligence and some experience to 'say' what a woman wants to hear and
women are soo emotional, it also easy for them to be susceptible or vulnerable
to them.
Sometimes it's a little hard for them to believe that guys can be like so
many of them are. So they believe the line, that skillfully doesn't sound like a
line but sounds refreshing IF it was real. Oh, just wishing it's real...and off
you go on a wish and a prayer. A good man that is ready to settle down? Right
now! No games! He likes/loves her and will give it all up, the single life,
for her? Oh you best believe, it's on! So what, you just met him a half hour
ago! LOL.
Ladies I'm trying to alert you to be careful of anyone that meets you and
is instantly ready to give up everything for you and expects that of you. Red Flag! Also to help you not miss out on a brother, that
is real, realistic, patient and unselfish enough to take their time and be
honest and truthful, as rare as that may seem.
Yes, someone who wants to be friends and not lock you up, while you get to
know one another.
True life experience:
I had a friend that I finally felt could be someone that had serious
potential. I expressed that to her but that I wanted to be "friends" first
though to get to know each other. NO commitments or restrictions on either of
our parts. One of the things that happened was she went out, and to a bar no
less and met the perfect man. OK, I left her that option by keeping our
relationship as friends. He was the 'opposite' of what I was, she was sure to
let me know that. Someone who had just met her and already decided he wanted
her to give up her friends for him. His line: I would love to talk to you but
you are much too beautiful. You probably got lots of friends and I don't do
friends.
WHAT? On the first drink he's ready to bypass friends and go straight to a
committed relationship? That sounds too good to be true!
Clues:
1. You met him at a club, he good at striking up conversations with woman,
he's still single but he doesn't do friends (only committed relationships).
Hmmm!
2. He speaks in plural. "I don't do friends", giving away his plural
approach. How many woman do you have that you "do not do friends with"?
3. And you have to ask yourself: Would a man, especially a man, that
hangs in the clubs, is good talking to woman and has the lines, really be
willing to give it all up, upon first site. As a matter of fact would any man
with confidence and intelligence (important qualities), do that? I don't know,
I'm just asking.
4. Great way to get in them jeans though! Say 'I don't do friends, only
commitment.' So for the woman, whether to sleep with him or not is almost like
already a fore gone conclusion. Of course you're gonna sleep with someone that
already has a commitment to you! LOL. So clue if he just does friends, how
urgent is he to go to bed with you?
It's easy for anyone man or woman to :
#1 make that commitment, get you
some booty, then just split when you're done
#2 say the words and never
actually make that commitment at all. When you get found out, hey you didn't
loose anything, cuz you were still gettin yours anyway?
Now contrast:
Someone that is not trying to jump in bed with you and
wants to take his time and be friends. Which one is more genuine?
Sisters a lot of times hear 'friends' and they think, Player! He just
wants to get some without commitment but don't miss the brother that wants to
genuinely get to know some one first and give you a chance to do the same.
There's a simple solution to that anyway, if you feel that's his game...
don't sleep with him, see how long this 'friendship' lasts and how genuine it
is.
Ladies you can be anxious too, to get in bed (though you want it to be more
than a one night stand). You might wanna consider sacrificing for a little
while, if it would mean making better decisions and longer lasting relationships
that work. Some women, not all, feel if he sleeps with me, he's mine. So they
sleep with someone first, then ask questions later: Is it only about sex with
us? You're not sleeping with anyone else are you? You love me right? You know
I don't normally do this right? LOL
I could write on this forever I think! So I better break this up. The
rest of the article is very important. I posted it on my site: WBNWA. Go here
to read about How deep is his love? ...if he does this? ...if he don't that?
How deep is his love? Really?
Click here for the conclusion
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