Inside the head and heart of a Black Man! By
request
Hello Ladies, Brothers! Hope everything has been hot for you this past
month. ( ...edit, delete...) So I just wanna make clear how I write on this topic
and why as I try to focus in more on what you all wanna know.
Got some second hand feedback. Thankyou, I apreciate the feed back. BTW,
Come on yall, give it to me direct too and give it to me raw
tlh@pro-mo-tions.com I could talk about it right
in my articles. Well it seems Brothers want woman to know and Sisters want to
know .... what's in the head and heart of a Black Man/what we want from
Sisters!
In my articles I've pretty much been talking about what's in MY head and
heart about both what Sisters want to know and what Brothers (like myself) want
Sisters to know. But maybe wasn't quite clear about it applying to both because
it seems Brothers feel I'm only really talking about how Brothers need to do
betta and putting the blame on them so to speak and Sisters, well, some sisters
it appears, seem to think that I'm only talking about what Brothers 'gotz to do
ta get betta'.
Well yall, I am not sure I'm a good representation
for Brothers out there or not. But I think I can be a good representative of
relationships (at least my view anyway). See I kinda look at things a little
differently. I'm a little unique and I comment from my prospective. But also I
believe much of what I have been saying has been mistakenly taken as to who I'm
directing it towards. I want yall to understand where I was coming from and
where I'll be going.
Yeah, Reading Ted Harge 101
MY PROSPECTIVE:
I'm sympathetic to woman, only because I have female friends more than
male friends. So that's who I talk to. I don't intend to and I shouldn't
insinuate that the problem is all with Brothers. I don't mean to say that and I
don't believe that.
4 thangz however:
1. I don't hear brothers
complain about the situation so much
2. I do hear my female friends complain
about the situation and what they go through, because I have more female friends
as I said.
3. Also yall I'm only gonna be able to give you my view point. I'm glad
that I hear we have a few other male writers because we can all give our own
perpective for the sisters. Give several view points. Because I can't really
represent well what challenges other brothers have as well as I can my own.
4. Also keep in mind, when I talk about or think about relationships in mind
I have already discounted the woman that I'm not interested...that's the best
way to deal with them, not so much try to change the woman we want into someone
else than who they are.
MISTAKEN?:
Some of yall feel I am just representing
what Brothers need to work on and what Sisters need to look out for. I have not
intended to do that and as I have read over past articles I don't see where I
have. I have tried to tell Sisters what I need and look for and thus indirectly
any Brothers that are like I am. But come on brothers, I love yall but lets be
real now!
I do have issues with Sisters falling for lines, falling for the game,
while other brothers are straight up honest and open. And I want a Sister to appreciate
honesty in a Brother when it comes by and not be decieved by the game. Now if
a Brother has a problem with that then that Brother must be running game. It
don't mean that all Brothers are playa's and all Sisters are saints.
Some Past thoughts, clarified:
So the things that I
have pointed out that I've needed from woman are: openness, honesty. Woman that
appreciate someone who is open and honest. Don't ignore an open, honest brother
for brothers running game. Be patient, if you meet a brother that wants to take
his time and get to know you and if you feel he is doing this to get in yo pants
then keep it zipped and see if he sticks around. Also, I don't believe in love
at first site! I think it's lust at first sight. It's still a wonderful thing
but I think it's lust until time has passed enough for us to learn who the hell
it is on the other side of that big ass smile we be wearing all the time while
you're staring at each others twinklers! So I don't want a woman to love me
when she doesn't know who I am, I want a woman to love me after she knows who I
am, then I know she loves me and not someone that she hopes I am. So please
have enough patience for me to know that you either love me for who I am or you
don't love me. These are all things that I have said and more already but
somehow have gotten lost in my rants about knuckle head brothers but my point
has been pretty much, sisters don't fall for that and leave a good man hanging
in the wind! Now honestly, if you're a knuckle head brother, then you're gonna
have a problem with that. If you're not, please don't take offense, I'm
standing up for us.
CONSIDERATIONS TAKEN:
OK, now we want to focus more on what we want from sisters. What
sisters need to keep in mind. How sisters can get and please a brother. Man
it's a beautiful thing to see happy, healthy black/black relationships. I'm not
totally against mixed race relationships but that's not for me and I just love
to see a black couple/family working, healthy and happy.
A new direction or slight adjustment for yall brothers and sisters:
Though I can only write from my perspective, what I can do is
* Talk more about brothers view in general, what I do know from talking to
them, what I do hear.
* Make it clearer when I am talking about what
sisters can do themselves. Focus A little more on that for yall.
* Spend some
time talking about sisters that I normally don't give brain real estate to...
(I'll talk more about that in a second)
But just keep in mind, please, what I think is not necessarily what all
brothers think. If yall sisters want a Brother like me, which you may or may
not, you can't make someone else like me, it's about the original. 'Holla at ya
boy!' A little shameless self promotions there. LOL Other wise these are just
my thoughts to consider.
A little more about my perspective and how I can adjust to give yall a
little more of what you want to hear from me:
I am, it's true, sympathetic to what a woman needs from a Brother and we
all need to be. That's the way it is. Woman deserve that. We just need to be
wise about who.
My thought process is not: I have to make Sisters do this or that, or stop
them from doing this or that.
I just look for someone who has what I want and acts the way I need. The
sisters I have been dating or desiring and pursueing have those qualities. So I
don't think much about all the other ladies that would piss me off and wouldn't
have what I want from a sister. That's why I haven't spent much time talking
about them. So for me it's a lot about selction and how can I be all I could be
for the type of woman I want. But maybe for some brothers in relationships that
are a little less than uuuh, smooth running and for the sake of sisters that
wanna know, I'll talk about those sisters and the qualities that I normally just
discount from my mind.
So I say to my brothers, search for the right
sister. You can't make a sister into what you want, you have to
find a sister that is what you need. ...edit.... Looks like the new
direction will be a little more like, us brothers letting sisters know,
because it is only fair, what we want and expect from a woman!
See you next month. Much Success in your relationships and in your
searches.